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The Constant Hunger of Desire

Posted by sibbia on November 14, 2007

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My long awaited package arrived today. Inside were two books, one of which I’ve been waiting years for. I can remember finishing the book before this one. The tension I felt as the conflict in the story grew, the bitter disappointment as the book wound to a close but the story did not.

I frantically searched for the title of the next book determined that I would buy it immediately and devour the entire thing in one sitting. But it was not to be, no title or publication dates were forthcoming. Time went on, and for the first time in all my decades of reading, I tracked down the author’s website. From time to time, the author would provide updates. She would tease us here and there with stories of her progress.

Eventually there was a publication date!

And another and another before the book was finally released. Each time I eagerly awaited the book’s release and sighed when the date was changed. I even chose not to preorder at Amazon so I could make sure I had the book on the day it was released, but when the bookstore did not have the book when it should have been released, I decided to order it along with another book that my daughter needed for school.

As I said, the long awaited package came today!

When I got around to opening the package, I pulled out the second book, a beautifully illustrated copy of The Human Body: An Illustrated Guide to its Structure, Function and Disorders, instead. I was enthralled by the pictures and explanations – they even described a few surgical procedures! I showed it to my daughter and we talked before going on with our day.

The long overdue and eagerly awaited book didn’t reach my hands for hours later. When it did, I gave it a hug. I happily remembered the hours I spent with the one before it. I looked at the cover, read the acknowledgments and book flaps, and flipped to the last page to get a page count (697, in case you were wondering).
Then, without any qualms, doubts or hesitation, I decided the book would likely wait until Thanksgiving came along to read it. When all was said and done, I read one sentence of the story, and then pondered the ways I could use a well-written, descriptive book to teach writing.

Now before you write me off for showing such angst over a book only for it not to matter much when it arrived, ask yourself how many times and ways you’ve done the same thing.

We are always pursuing something in life. There is always some goal, object, possession or skill we feel as though we must have.

For some of these things, we tell ourselves, “we deserve it!” For others, the argument is made that our lives will be so much better when X happens. This is yet another case of “I’ll be happy when” which I posted about earlier.

How many people do you know who have gotten a degree and then never worked in that field, or hate the work they do now? How many times have you bought something or signed up for some program to never use the item or service in question? How many times have you longed for something only to find it wasn’t at all what you expected, or nearly as important as you previously thought?

We’ve all done this, consciously or unconsciously. This process steals our joy and power by placing them in something outside ourselves. It robs us of our ability to truly focus on the here and now and distorts our sense of what is and isn’t important.

Part of deciding to be happy, deciding to be conscious, is fully accepting the here and now, even while we work to change it. It requires that we keep our mind’s eye trained on our vision, but our eyes on our current situation.

In this way we protect our health, relationships, sense of self and true priorities while we increase our earning potential, learn a new skill, start a business or any other time consuming venture that could allow us to lose focus.

After all, what would finally reaching our goal or receiving our desired object mean if we’ve sacrificed more essential, but often taken for granted, priorities?

P.S.
For anyone who happens to be wondering… the book in question is The High King’s Tomb by Kristen Britain.

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Be happy when

Posted by sibbia on October 25, 2007

It’s the same song, time and time again; I’ll be happy when.

I’ll be happy when… I have a car… have a new car… finish my car payments… sell my car.

I’ll be happy when… I start dating… get married… have kids… have the house to myself… get divorced… get remarried

I know I’ll be happy when I:                                      

                   Lose weight!
                   Gain weight!
                   Have more money!

This time I’m sure I’ll be happy when I:                                     

                  Refine my goals!
                  Get it right this time!
                  Make a name for myself!

Have you ever let yourself speak the words, I’ll be happy when?

I’ve spoken before about the power our words hold, our thoughts even more so.  So ask yourself, are you holding your happiness hostage?

It’s time to change the song.

I’ll be happy when…                       

                        the sun rises, the stars shine
                        the wind blows, I sense the divine.

I’ll be happy when…                        

                        a baby smiles, a cat purrs
                        when-ever the slightest pleasant thing occurs.
I’ll be happy…

Today!

There is too much sadness in the world for us to add to it with the constant pursuit of happiness. 
Instead of always pursuing happiness, make the choice to slow down and let it catch you.  Then spread it where ever you go. 

Happy Butterfly

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Power of the Spoken Word

Posted by sibbia on August 8, 2007

Today I wanted to remind us all of the power of the spoken word.  I often advocate for the use of affirmations and different types of meditations as part of our daily practice — and I still consider this an extremely important part of our creating the success we desire in our lives. 

There is something, however, that has a much more lasting and continual effect, and that is the content and quality of our spoken word.  When it is said that you create your own reality, it is not simply through meditation and mental picturing — those are only techniques to firmly ingrain a set of beliefs in your awareness.  It is also, even primarily, through the words we choose to describe ourselves and our circumstances.

When we understand the power we have to create ourselves and the world around us, we become much careful in how we choose to speak.  Statements such as, “I’m no good at math”, “I’m always late”, “I never win anything” or “I have a terrible memory”, serve to create and sustain that very reality.

 But instead of writing further on the subject myself, I will direct you to an excellent set of posts written on the topic already. 

The first post covers the various ways we might be influenced and asks us to be aware of what thoughts and beliefs we are readily accepting into our awareness.  It was written by Mark of  The Naked Soul — an insightful and interesting blog that is not to be missed.

The second post deals directly with seeding your mind with the correct thoughts and beliefs through the conscious use of powerful words.  The post comes from the Million Dollar blog and lists 12 simple ways to empower your words and your life.  A site definitely worth subscribing to.

As always, seeing is believing and believing is achieving.  Seeing you enjoying a wonderful, happy and blessed day!

Writing to our success,

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Life Instructions

Posted by sibbia on August 7, 2007

Too often we have been taught how to survive but not thrive. 
We learn or were taught how to cope but not change. 
We manage to function but not live. 

Here are some thoughts to help change that:

Accept responsibility for everything that happens in your life, both good and bad.

Respect yourself and others.

Learn to truly love yourself and extend that love to others.

Read about and study every subject important in your life:  relationships, finances, career, spirituality…

Wisdom comes from within, seek it out daily.

Take risks.  Go out on a limb — that’s where the fruit is.

When you fall down, GET BACK UP!  (and don’t spend another moment thinking or talking about the day you fell down)

Take the road less traveled and be willing to go where the path leads you.

Write down your goals.  Define them, review them and pursue them.

Dwell on only what you want.  You cannot afford the luxury of a negative thought. 

Make a habit of daily prayer and affirmation

And above all…

Live, love, be happy!

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Life’s Peaks and Valleys

Posted by sibbia on August 6, 2007

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Life is cyclic.  Seasons change, flowers bloom, then wither and die only to bloom again.  The first buds on a tree’s bare branch heralds the coming of spring then becomes a profusion of flowers, an abundance of shading giving summer leaves, a glorious shower of fall foliage, only to become a bare branch once again.

Neither state is any better or worse than another.  All are necessary and each has its place.  It is simply the way of the world.  There are periods of growth and abundance, as well as death and decay.  Our lives also have these same periods. 

 Most of the time these seasons are reflected in our lives in the course of a month, a week, or the 24 hours of a day.  If drawn on a graph they would be be shown as many, relatively small, ups and downs.  Nothing too dramatic or earth-shaking.  Life is relatively stable.

There are periods, however, when everything seems to slide downhill.  Health problems, death in the family, marriage troubles, sudden financial loss… they all pile together, gradually picking up steam, until they appear to charge at you with an unstoppable momentum and you are faced with an overwhelming feeling of loss, fear or despair.

Yet… however bad things many seem… whatever problems you are facing… you can handle it.

Life never gives you more than you can handle.  It only seems that way.  So when something has done its best to bring you low, look up!  Aim high!  And be thankful!

Be thankful?  Yes, thankful!  Be glad, be joyful, get happy!  Have you never seen the pendulum on a grandfather clock?  Have you never noticed that however low a sine wave goes, it rises again to a peak just as high?  After every winter, spring comes again.  After every night, a sunrise!  Has the dawn ever failed you?

No matter how long or dark your personal winter is… no matter what choices, conditions or situation brought it about… spring WILL comes.  Hold to that vision of spring.  Turn whatever challenge you are facing, big or small, into an opportunity for growth. 

I remember hearing a story of a woman who created a fortune for herself by inventing a gadget that kept toddlers from unrolling the toilet paper!

Every challenge or problem is nothing but a stepping stone to your own good, if you choose to see it that way.

Remember, seeing is believing and believing is achieving.  See your way to happiness, love, joyful abundance and lasting health.

Namaste.

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Effortless Meditation (Part 2 of 3)

Posted by sibbia on July 30, 2007

Today’s focus is focused daydreaming, or visualization.  This technique is often used specifically as a manifestation tool, and can be used both internally and externally.

External (Manifestation Meditation) — Many of us are familiar with this technique.  It involves holding a firm picture of something you want to achieve (or receive) in your life.  This is a time honored and powerful technique, for nothing is achieved in life without being able to imagine it so.  Yet some of us have not developed this imaging faculty or are so bogged down in the day to day that our thoughts are a reflection of our current experiences and lack the power and joy to motivate us to dream of something else.

For those of us in that situation, we will modify this technique slightly.  First, we create a short list of activities that we have enjoyed in the past, accomplishments we are proud of and/or just periods when we were very happy.  Next, create the same type of list but this time use situations, experiences and externals that have not happened yet.  Review the first list remembering as much detail as possible.  Recreate the same feeling you had in that situation.  Smile.  Picture it.  And transfer that same feeling as you read the list of things that have not happened yet.  Smile and imagine yourself in the new situation feeling as happy and alive as you have in the past or even more so! 

Doing this helps align yourself with the happy circumstances you are picturing and other such pleasing situations in general.  Some find it helpful to add pictures representing both things we enjoy and things we would like to experience.  This type of focused daydreaming can also be used with only the first list, as a way to redirect any negative thoughts/emotions that come your way.  Simply reading the list and remember the good things that have occurred in your life and the things that you enjoy in this world can immediately change your outlook, leaving you calmer and more positive.

Internal ((Re)Creation Meditation) — In this case, we are not trying to bring some external thing or circumstance into manifestation.  Instead, we are shaping and creating the person that we want ourselves to be.  A list and memories is also helpful with this technique, though not required.  The first list in this case consists of attributes we want ourselves to have.  While the second contains situations where we have failed to live up to our ideal.  Now instead of beating ourselves up over the times we’ve gotten angry, frustrated, worried, or in some other way temporarily lost our faith, we just relive the situation and this time behave in the manner we wanted to earlier. 

See yourself being calm in a situation that once caused you doubt or anger; being patient and relaxed at a time you normally would have been frustrated and impatient.  Use your affirmations and your mental pictures to create the person you want to be.  Immediately combat any negative thought with a positive statement or affirmation.  If the frantic thought comes to you that you’re going to be late, calmly respond that “God guides you to be in the right place at the right time” or “this is simply a lesson I needed to learn about focus, advanced preparation and/or time management.  I am thankful for the lesson and no longer concern myself with anything that is not within my direct control.”

Whatever the situation, learn to treat your thoughts and emotions as something outside yourself.  Let it be an internal conversation, one where you immediately correct or refuse to acknowledge any thought or feeling that does not lead to your own good, or the person you want to become.

 This internal technique, in part, is what’s meant by “being the change you want to see”.  Not only will it give you a chance to lead by example, becoming a calmer, happier, more peaceful, helpful person will lead to you seeing more of the same in your own life.

Namaste!

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Effortless Meditation (Part One)

Posted by sibbia on July 27, 2007

Meditation or trance is a state or practice that we all engage in several times a day.  Any time we find ourselves daydreaming, lost in thought, reliving an old memory or getting caught in the throes of an emotion, we have enetered a state of trance.

Trance —  A state of complete mental absorption or deep musing; detachment from one’s physical surroundings, as in contemplation or daydreaming.

Meditation — Continued or extended thought; reflection; contemplation.

So the question becomes not if we are able to enter trance or how often we engage in a practice of meditation, but what we choose to meditate on and just how consciously we do so.  Some of us believe we have no time to develop a practice of meditation.  Too much has to be done!  There’s no time.  I’ll do it tomorrow or even I don’t know how to meditate properly.  These are the kind of excuses we tell ourselves.
 

Well, the title of this post is effortless meditation and to cut through all our excuses, this is what we should include in our day — simple, painless meditation.

Simple Meditation Technique #1:  Reading

Carry around a small book that is inspirational.  It could be religious scripture, a handful of affirmation cards, a book of positive quotes, a list of personal goals or a great book on personal achievement to list a few examples.  Get into the habit of carrying it everywhere and flipping through it to read a section whenever you find yourself having to wait.

Why reading?  Reading engages the imagination, creates new ideas and directs the thoughts.  Any reading does this, so why not actively choose reading material that encourages, uplifts and inspires?

Simple Meditation Technique #2:  Music

Various studies have been done on the effect music has on learning, memory and mood.  Music can stir a wide range of emotions and while the effect music has on us cannot be clearly explained or defined, it is quite easy to demonstrate.  Few are the religious practices that do not have an associated type of music, because of the rapturous, trance-like state it helps induce.

That said to include music as a simple meditation tool choose music by carefully examining the lyrics of the song.  Choose songs where the singer is happy, determined, motivated, and/or thankful.  Both gospel and secular music can be used, just pay close attention to the lyrics.  Another option is to pick instrumental or nature’s music.  Select a variety of music.  Pick some that excites you, some that makes you sway along and some that calms and relaxes you.

Music is easy to include during your daily commute, as you wake and right before you sleep and while you work or study.  Take a minute to focus on the piece you’ve chosen and allow it to move you before you get back to your daily grind.

Happy meditating!

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You Are God!

Posted by sibbia on July 18, 2007

I’ll say it again, you are God.  How can I make such an audacious claim?  Many of us recognize that the divine force is part of everything and resides in us as well, and yet don’t seek out the realization of that perfect divinity.

They may accept Jesus Christ as the son of God, without realizing that we are all sons and daughters of God, or remembering that Jesus said that we were to go forth and create even bigger works (miracles).  To the average man, this is an impossible, ludicrous statement.  Yet I remind you that we are made in God’s image and likeness and we are all an expression of only one divine force.

We are as the waves on top of the ocean — made in its image and likeness but lacking its full power and realization until we merge back to the source from which we came.  When we focus on God and God-like behavior, we are beginning that process of reconnection, for we have been surely told, “draw closer to God, and God draws closer to you.”

The highest aim of this blog is to help us realize and express our divinity.  This is the answer to any question we face, and the supply to our every need.  Everything I write, design, create and photograph is meant to inspire the very best in our nature.  Sharing and providing service to others helps strengthen my commitment to bringing light into world (starting with myself).

The more we recognize our own divinity, the stronger our faith becomes.  Fears vanish and our lives become more harmonious as we transcend the ego and align ourselves with the divine.

Piercing the veil of illusion that makes us believe we are seperate individuals removes selfishness and competition from our hearts and we being to understand our collective power.

Is this some lofty, difficult goal?  No.  Must we run off to the mountain top to meditate for ten years, forsaking all worldly concerns?  No, for how would we be of any use to others then?  When faced with a challenge, a crisis, temptation, dilemma… say to yourself simply:

Only that which is true of God is true of me for God and I are one.

Let this thought guide you, ask what God would do in that situation and do your best to behave in the same manner.  In that instance, you have reached toward God and God reaches back toward you.

There is only one thought that comes through me to share with everyone today and that is:

You Are God!

I am the artist; I am the Creator, and my life is as divine as I make it. 

See it, believe it, achieve it.


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Becoming A Divine Vessel (Summary)

Posted by sibbia on July 12, 2007

The Becoming a Divine Vessel series was presented with the goal of providing us the means to express the divine force inside us on a regular basis.

It is a five step program that is as simple or as complex as we choose to make it.  Any one step can bring great change into our lives if we focus on it with diligent attention.  As a group, they encompass the spiritual Laws necessary to bring us closer to God and reflect God’s light and power into the world.

It is also important to note that these Laws are not only a foundation for spiritual success; they are key to our material success and manifestation as well.  When we realize the Divine plan for our life is whole and perfect, we are content to accept only that which is God’s will for us.  This frees us from envy, fear, worry and doubt, and this freedom opens the channels for the abundant, Universal supply to flow to and through us. 

To review, the five steps that were given to us are:
 
1. Listen to the Quiet Voice — Seek God’s guidance.  Trust in more than your mind and your senses.  Allow the answer, idea, or help you need to come to you.  Expect it without fear or worry and it will be so.

I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you and watch over you. – Psalm 32:8
 
2.  Learn to Nurture — Make caring and kindness part of your nature.  Start in small ways and expand on it.  Dedicate yourself to caring for something from thought to finish, remembering you reap what you sow.
 
3.  Be Creative — A hallmark of God’s nature, creation.  Develop creativity as you would a muscle.  Train it exercise it, and use it daily so that it will be there to serve you when you really need it.
 
4.  Establish Order — Refuse to let chaos rule in your thoughts or your surroundings.  Pay strict attention to your thoughts, words, and the things you allow to influence you — your surroundings, choice of books, music, movies, etc.
 
5.  Forgiveness — Let go and let God.  Reconcile yourself with the things of your past.  Hold no resentment or ill will towards another being.  Instead send forth love so that love may return to you.

May these words help to guide you along your path!

The Divine in me recognizes and celebrates the Divine in you,

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Happiness

Posted by sibbia on June 21, 2007

This is from an email I received last night. I decided it was something we should all remember.

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A 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud man, who is fully dressed each morning by eight o’clock, with his hair fashionably coifed and shaved perfectly, even though he is legally blind, moved to a nursing home today.

His wife of 70 years recently passed away, making the move necessary. After many hours of waiting patiently in the lobby of the nursing home, he smiled sweetly when told his room was ready.

As he maneuvered his walker to the elevator, I provided a visual description of his tiny room, including the eyelet sheets that had been hung on his window.  “I love it,” he stated with the enthusiasm of an eight-year-old having just been presented with a new puppy.

“Mr. Jones, you haven’t seen the room; just wait.”

“That doesn’t have anything to do with it,” he replied.

“Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time. Whether I like my room or not doesn’t depend on how the furniture is arranged … it’s how I arrange my mind. I already decided to love it. “It’s a decision I make every morning when I wake up. I have a choice; I can spend the day in bed recounting the difficulty I have with the parts of my body that no longer work, or get out of bed and be thankful for the ones that do.”

“Each day is a gift, and as long as my eyes open, I’ll focus on the new day and all the happy memories I’ve stored away. Just for this time in my life.”

Old age is like a bank account.  You withdraw from what you’ve put in. So, excellent advice is to deposit a lot of happiness in the bank account of memories! I hope this blog does its part to help make that easier for you.  As for me, I am still depositing.

Remember the five simple rules to be happy:

1. Free your heart from hatred.

2. Free your mind from worries.

3 Live simply.

4. Give more.

5. Expect less.

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